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Understanding my patterns in love and connection

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EmoFlame

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I've been thinking a lot about love lately, and it's got me all mixed up with feelings. I've found myself deeply in love with three different people, and that's made me wonder what's going on here? With every person, I felt an intense connection. There was love, longing, happiness, even the lows of feeling depressed. And dreams—lots of dreams!😊

Here's the thing—my first love was intense but left me unsatisfied in the end. The emotional connection was there but just didn't feel complete. Ever felt that way? With my second love, we clicked immediately! We didn't talk much at first but still felt this bond. But after seven years, things just fell apart.

Now enters someone new—a "twin" if you will—and guess what? I'm feeling those familiar emotions all over again! It's exciting and confusing all at once. Is this what they call a pattern?

So here's my thought (and maybe you guys can help me out): Is it possible that it's not these individuals who are stirring these feelings in me but rather something in me that responds this way in relationships? Could it be just my style of loving instead of something unique about each person?😅

I'm really curious to know if anyone else has had similar experiences or thoughts on this. How do you make sense of your patterns in relationships? Let's chat about it! 🤔
 
Meeting tf was unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. There was this instant spark, a feeling of connection that went beyond what I thought love could be. Before, I kept my feelings to myself, scared to share the depth of my emotions. Previous relationships felt more like exchanges than genuine loves.

But with tf, something shifted. I found a new courage to express myself. It’s hard to describe, but there’s a spiritual quality to my feelings for tf—a nurturing kind of love that makes me want their happiness above all else. It’s transformative and real in ways I never knew before.
 
So here’s the tea, y’all. For 25 years, I’ve been harboring these intense feelings for this guy, and let me tell you—it's like a rollercoaster of unconditional love that just won't quit. I mean, it’s different from anything on the dating scene, no shade to my hubby or anything. Up until late 2012, I kept it all under wraps like a secret recipe; but honestly, the urge to spill was getting real.

Fast forward to now, and only a select crew knows about this “situation.” You know, my husband (he’s cool with it), some random folks online who probably think I'm the next soap opera star, and now you lovely people in this forum. It’s wild! What's even crazier is that my heart's fuzzy feelings for this guy don’t take away from my love for my husband. Like how can you explain that? Lawd, some might judge me for it, but this isn’t something I signed up for—it just kinda happened!

Anyway, life is messy and complex (yeah yeah, I see you rolling your eyes). But here we are—living in the chaos of love. What do y'all think about sharing such deep feelings while still being committed?
 
Okay, so here’s the thing—everyone's got an opinion on love, right? It’s like, chill out people! I’ve got these crazy deep feelings for three folks at once and it's a rollercoaster. Is it me? My “loving style”? Lol, I just need some insight here before I lose my mind!
 
All you desire is within you. Deep down, you already possess the answer you're looking for.

I remember searching externally for guidance, only to realize that my intuition had been right all along.
 
I’ve been reflecting on my experiences with two significant relationships, and wow, it's been a journey! Each connection brought its own unique feelings and styles of intimacy that really made me think about love in different ways.

The first guy was my "twin flame." I felt this incredible emotional and physical bond with him—something almost magnetic! It was as if we were connected on another level. But then there’s the second guy, who is quite similar to me. We even have this strange telepathic communication going on. It felt surprising at first, but then it blossomed into something deep.

But here’s where it gets tricky! I keep wondering about the whole twin flame concept… like, can you have more than one? Is it just a soul connection? Sometimes I doubt myself, feeling a bit crazy for these strong emotions. But what eases my mind is that both men feel some of this too—phew!

There’s also this push-and-pull thing happening with the second man. He’s confused about what we are after two years of being all tangled up in each other's lives without really resolving anything. Then there's the twin flame who expressed love but has completely pulled back since then… talk about complicated feelings! It leaves me questioning what all of this means for me and my heart.
 
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