Ectopic pregnancy and healing journey

[LuckTurner]

Hey everyone, I'm 30 years old and generally healthy, but my IVF journey has been nothing short of a rollercoaster. I can't help but wonder if I'm just having the worst luck ever. Let me share my story with you.

First, during my initial IVF cycle, something went terribly wrong. The speculum exam was so painful, and I ended up with a severe injury that caused hemorrhaging. I had to undergo emergency surgery, which was absolutely terrifying. I never imagined something like that could happen during such a routine procedure.

If that wasn't enough, my second cycle ended in a miscarriage. It was heartbreaking, and I felt like I was losing all hope. But I tried to stay positive, thinking maybe the third time would be the charm.

Well, the third cycle brought its own set of challenges. After a negative pregnancy test, I thought that was it, but then they found an ectopic pregnancy during an ultrasound. My fallopian tube had ruptured, and I had to have surgery to remove it. They also found an adhesion that could have caused more issues down the line, so maybe that's the silver lining here.

I'm trying to see if there's a reason behind all this. Maybe my body is trying to tell me something, or perhaps this is all just a series of unfortunate events. I'm reaching out because I could really use some advice on how to heal from all this, both physically and emotionally. Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you cope and turn things around?

I'm hoping to turn my luck around soon. I just want to feel whole again and maybe someday have a healthy pregnancy. Thanks for listening, and I look forward to your thoughts and support.

 

[Paxomi]

I’m so sorry for your loss, Nurserach. Losing something so precious is never easy, and I can only imagine how heavy your heart must feel. I know how hard it is when doctors don’t fully understand what you’re going through. Miscarriages are devastating, but ectopic pregnancies can feel even more isolating because they’re so misunderstood.

I went through something similar years ago. My ectopic pregnancy wasn’t diagnosed in time, and I almost lost my life from the bleeding. It was terrifying, and the pain stayed with me for a long time. I couldn’t understand why my body had failed me, and the grief felt so different from what I’d expected.

If you’re open to it, counseling helped me process the anger and sadness. Healing doesn’t come all at once—it’s like the waves of the ocean, some days calm and others crashing hard. Be kind to yourself, and give yourself time. You don’t have to rush through the pain. Take it one day at a time, and know you’re not alone.