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Conflicted feelings about love and attraction

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MismatchMaven

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He is offering me everything I ever wanted, and yet, I can't help but feel this emptiness inside. He's kind, caring, and genuinely excited about the possibility of us. He's already talking about introducing me to his family and even offered to help me with my housing situation. It's everything I thought I wanted in a partner, but here's the thing—I just don't feel that spark. I enjoy his company, I really do, but it's more like the comfort of a close friend rather than a romantic partner.

Then there's this other person, someone I'll call TF. We've barely spoken in months, and I've tried to move on so many times, but somehow, they still linger in my mind. It's confusing because I didn't even get the chance to explore anything real with them. Yet, the thought of them brings up emotions I can't ignore.

I find myself wondering why I'm still holding onto these feelings for someone who isn't even in my life, while the person right in front of me is offering me everything. It's like my heart is stuck in a place I can't let go of, even when my head tells me to move forward. It's frustrating, but maybe that's just how love works sometimes—messy and unpredictable.
 
He is offering me everything I ever wanted, yet I can’t help but wonder if the longing I feel is something I’ve created for myself. It’s strange how we hold onto these feelings, almost as if they define us. I hope he finds the happiness he’s seeking in his new relationship. He’ll have choices to make soon, and I can only imagine how that must feel.
 
Could it be that you're not allowing yourself to form an emotional bond? This can occur at times.

However, if you feel it's absent, then I believe you. It's unfortunate. Engaging with your emotions can be challenging, but acknowledging their absence is an important step towards understanding and potentially rekindling those connections in the future.
 
He is offering me everything I ever wanted, but I don’t feel that romantic spark. It’s confusing because he’s kind, supportive, and shares so many of my values. I keep wondering if I’m just not giving it enough time or if I’m overthinking it. I guess what I’m trying to say is, it’s okay to acknowledge when your heart isn’t fully in it, even if everything else seems perfect. Sometimes, giving it more time helps, but it’s also important to stay open-minded without forcing feelings that aren’t there. Being honest with yourself and the other person is crucial, even if it’s uncomfortable.
 
Could it be because he has feminine traits?

I have to admit, the thought made me chuckle while lying wide awake in bed at 5:48 AM.

Honestly, he seems wonderful! Allow things to unfold naturally, as there's no hurry. Embrace the journey and see where it leads; sometimes the best connections develop when least expected.
 
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