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Is death predetermined or a result of circumstances?

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EphemeralEcho

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I lost my mother recently. She was 71 and passed away due to a toxic megacolon, a C. diff infection, and sepsis. It happened so quickly—just three weeks from the start of her illness. I’m still in shock, trying to process how someone who was here just a month ago is now gone.

Her death has brought up a lot of emotions, especially sadness and guilt. We had a strained relationship for most of my life, but I had finally started to forgive her and understand her better. Now, I can’t help but wonder if she deserved more time, if there was something the doctors could have done differently. It feels like she was taken too soon.

I’ve been questioning whether death is predetermined. Is there a plan for when each of us will go? Or is it just random? I’ve been praying and reading the Bible, trying to find some comfort or answers, but it’s hard to make sense of it all. Why does so much suffering happen in the world? Why did my mom have to go through what she did?

A friend recently told me she’s been having premonitions about global catastrophes, and that made me think even more about life and death. Is there a bigger purpose to all of this suffering? I don’t know. I just wish I could find some peace and understanding.

I guess I’m reaching out because I hope someone might have some insight or advice on how to deal with these feelings. I’m just so confused and hurting right now.
 
I’m really sorry to hear about your loss. Death is never easy, and I can’t imagine how tough this must be for you. It’s natural to wonder why these things happen, but honestly, I don’t think anyone has the answers. Death feels so random sometimes, and it’s hard to make sense of it.

I guess one way to look at it is that death is just a part of life. It’s weird to say, but without it, the world would probably be way overpopulated. It’s like nature’s way of keeping things balanced, even though it doesn’t make it any less painful. Life has a beginning and an end, and maybe that’s what makes it so precious.

For me, I’ve always thought that around 71 years feels like a good lifespan. It’s long enough to live a full life, but not so long that it feels unnatural. I’m not a fan of the idea of stretching life out forever with tons of medical procedures. It’s okay to let go when your time comes.

I think it’s important to remember that our physical lives are temporary. Death isn’t the end—it’s just the end of this part. It’s like when a flower blooms for a season and then wilts. It’s not sad; it’s just how it goes. So, try to focus on the good times and the memories you had. Death isn’t something to fear; it’s just a natural part of life.
 
Is death predetermined? That’s a question that often leads to more questions, doesn’t it? Sometimes, the answers we seek aren’t meant to be found, and there’s a strange kind of peace in embracing the unknown. Instead of chasing certainty, maybe we can celebrate the life we’ve lived, the love we’ve shared, and the legacy we’ve built. Those things, at least, feel eternal. Blessings, James.
 
I am deeply sorry for your loss, Kazziem. Losing a mother is one of the most profound sorrows one can experience. Death is a part of life, but it does not make it any easier to accept. It is natural to grieve, but it is also important to find comfort in understanding the bigger picture.

Death, as many believe, is not an end but a transition. It is part of the cycle of life, a journey that we all must take. This perspective can help us find peace in knowing that your mother’s passing was not a random event but a step in the natural order of things. Many faiths and philosophies suggest that life and death are predetermined, part of a plan set in motion long before we were born. This idea can be comforting, as it implies that there is meaning and purpose behind every life, including every death.

Life is filled with trials and challenges, and death is one of them. These experiences shape us, teach us, and help us grow. They are part of the agreement we made with God before we came into this world. Every moment, every joy, and every sorrow is part of this journey. Your mother’s life, like all lives, was a unique thread in the tapestry of existence, woven with purpose.

While God gives us free will, there is also a divine plan that governs the universe. This plan includes every event, big or small, joyful or painful. It is not always easy to understand why certain things happen, but trusting in this plan can bring solace. Even in the face of tragedy, we can find strength in knowing that everything happens for a reason.

Prayer can be a powerful tool during this time. Praying for your mother’s soul can help guide her to the afterlife and bring her peace. It is also a way to stay connected to her, even though she is no longer physically present. Forgiveness is another important step in this process. Forgiving those who have passed can help their spirits move on, and it can also bring healing to those who are left behind.

Though your mother is no longer with you in body, her essence remains. She is now in a place where there is no pain or suffering, and her spirit continues to exist in a different form. You can still communicate with her through prayer, thoughts, and memories. She will always be a part of you, and her love will never fade.

I hope you find strength in your faith and in the love of those around you. Death is not the end, but a new beginning. Your mother is now at peace, and you will see her again someday. Until then, cherish the memories you shared and hold them close to your heart.

May God bless you and give you the courage to navigate this difficult time. You are not alone in your grief, and there is comfort in knowing that others care deeply for you. Take time to heal, but also take time to remember the joy your mother brought into your life. Her legacy lives on through you.
 
I’m so sorry for your loss, kazziem. Losing someone you love is one of the hardest things we can go through. I understand the weight of grief all too well. Last year, I lost my 22-year-old son, and it’s been a journey to find ways to cope with the pain. Grief is such a personal and unique experience, and everyone processes it differently. For me, I’ve found comfort in small rituals—like reaching out to “hold” his hand or giving him a “high-five” when I think of him. It’s my way of feeling connected, even though he’s no longer here.

I also lost my mother back in 1983, and I remember how raw the grief felt at the time. It’s strange how emotions can shift over the years. What was once a sharp, overwhelming sadness has mellowed into a deep ache that I’ve learned to live with. It’s not that the pain goes away; it’s just that we learn to carry it differently.

I think it’s important to allow yourself to feel whatever comes up, even if it’s uncomfortable. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve. For me, self-care has been crucial—whether it’s taking long walks, journaling, or just giving myself permission to rest when I need to.

As for the idea of death being predetermined, I’m not sure it’s something that’s ever brought me much comfort. Whether it’s part of some grand plan or not, the loss still feels real and personal. I think what matters most is how we navigate the emotions and memories we’re left with. Sending you strength and peace, kazziem. Take your time to heal.
 
I'm really sorry to hear about your loss, Kazz. My heart goes out to you and your family. I can only imagine how tough this must be for you. I know how hard it is to see someone you love in pain. My son has been dealing with a condition called megacolon, and it’s been a constant worry for me. Seeing him struggle breaks my heart every single day. I hope you and your mom can find some peace during this difficult time. Sending you all my love and light. 💛
 
Losing someone is always hard, no matter their age. It's a sad reminder of life's fragility. While we remember the good times, questions about why and when can linger. Grief comes in waves, and it's okay to feel each emotion. May you find peace in cherished memories. Namaste.
 
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