Understanding Runners in Intense Relationships

[Flekmix]

Something I found on runners.

Hey everyone, I just came across this concept about something called "Runners," and honestly, it's been on my mind a lot. I just wanted to share what I learned because it really resonated with me, and maybe it will with you too.

So, a Runner is someone who feels this super intense soul connection with another person. You know, the kind where it feels like you've known each other forever, and there's this deep understanding that's hard to explain. But here's the twist: even though they feel this connection, they end up pulling away. It's like they're scared of something they can't quite put their finger on.

I think the main issue for Runners is that they're torn between how they feel and how they act. On one hand, they're drawn to this person in a way that feels almost magnetic. On the other hand, they're terrified of getting too close because it all feels too much to handle. It's like their heart is saying yes, but their head is screaming no. This conflict must be really confusing and scary for them.

What's even crazier is that sometimes Runners don't even understand why they're acting this way. They might say things like, "I've never acted like this in my life," because they're just as shocked as the other person. It's like their mind and heart are in a battle, and they don't know how to make sense of it. This "soul shock" must be really overwhelming.

I think a big part of why Runners pull away is fear. Fear of being vulnerable, fear of getting hurt, fear of losing control. They might doubt whether their feelings are real or if they're just caught up in the moment. It's like they're standing at the edge of a cliff, wanting to jump but being too afraid of what might happen if they do.

It's also interesting because Runners seem to prefer relationships that develop slowly. They like taking things step by step, building a connection over time. But when they meet someone where everything clicks—friendship, chemistry, deep connection—all at once, it's too much for them to handle. It's like their system gets overwhelmed, and they don't know how to process it all.

I think it's important to try to understand where Runners are coming from. It's easy to label them as flaky or indecisive, but the truth is, they're dealing with some heavy emotional stuff. They're not trying to hurt anyone; they're just struggling to reconcile their feelings with their fears.

So, what does this mean for the person on the other side of this connection? Well, it could go one of two ways. Either the Runner isn't really a true soul mate or twin flame, and they're just someone you're meant to learn from. Or, they might actually be the real deal, but they're just not ready to accept the connection yet. They might need time for their mind to catch up with what their soul already knows.

If you're dealing with a Runner, try not to take it personally. It's not about you; it's about their own fears and doubts. Imagine them acting normal and happy with someone else, which can help you see that their behavior is specific to the intensity of your connection. This might give you some peace of mind and help you move forward, whether that's waiting for them or letting go.

Anyway, I just thought this was something worth sharing. It's helped me make sense of some things, and maybe it can do the same for you. Let me know what you think!

 

[Vibezu]

Hey everyone! I came across something that really resonated with me about "Runner" dynamics in Soul-Mate or Twin-Flame connections. It made me think—when someone runs, it could mean they're not your true match, and their leaving is actually a good thing for you. Or, they might be the real deal, but their mind hasn't caught up with their soul's recognition yet. Either way, it's all part of the journey, right?

 

[Pacerix]

Hey everyone! I just came across something interesting about runners in TF relationships. It got me thinking—why do people who aren’t runners think they can generalize our experiences? I’ve tried talking about my perspective before, but it always gets shut down. It’s like, if you’re not a runner, you can’t fully get it. Some stayers seem to prefer their one-sided views rather than hearing us out. Let’s keep the conversation open, shall we? What are your thoughts?

 

[Mendera]

In all honesty, I am open to internal queries and genuinely want to hear your perspective. Please feel free to message me directly if you’re uncomfortable sharing publicly. I think direct communication can really help clarify any uncertainties and makes collaboration smoother.

 

[Fleetrack]

Appreciate your sharing... it truly strikes a chord with me. It seems that at one time or another, we've all played the role of the runner. Often, we're completely unaware of our actions when we're caught up in the complexities of life's journey. For me, looking back, I see moments where I unintentionally slipped into fleeing from situations or emotions. It's intriguing how hindsight reveals such patterns.

 

[Pacerix]

Something I found on runners.

So, I came across this interesting take on relationships, and it got me thinking about how people handle being chased or doing the chasing. You know, like in nature—when something is hunting, it’s either chasing or being chased. And humans aren’t much different, right? In relationships, we often see this dynamic where one person is the "hunter" and the other is the "prey." But what’s really interesting is how people react when they’re in these roles.

Some people are what you’d call "stayers." They’re the ones who hold on tight to relationships, often because they have these big, romantic ideas about love. They believe in the fairy tales, the happily ever afters, and they want to make things work no matter what. But here’s the thing—those expectations can be pretty unrealistic. They might see their partner as someone who needs to change or grow to fit into their ideal relationship, and when that doesn’t happen, they’re left feeling disappointed or stuck.

On the flip side, you have the "runners." These are the people who, when things get too intense or when they feel like they’re not meeting someone’s expectations, they bolt. It’s not always because they don’t care—it’s often because they feel like they can’t live up to what’s being asked of them. They might feel like they’re failing or that they’re not good enough, so they leave before they get hurt.

What’s funny is how often the responsibility falls on the runner to fix things. The stayer might say things like, "If only you tried harder" or "If only you changed," but they rarely look at their own role in the situation. It’s like they’re expecting the runner to adapt to their needs without questioning whether their own expectations are fair or realistic.

I’ve seen this play out in my own life, and it’s frustrating. The stayer often doesn’t realize that their need for control or their rigid ideas about love can push people away. They might not even see how their lack of self-awareness contributes to the problem. Instead, they blame the runner for not being "enough," without stopping to think about whether they’re asking for too much.

And let’s not forget the gender dynamics in all of this. Society often paints men as the hunters and women as the prey, but that’s changing. Still, there’s this idea that men are supposed to chase, and if they’re not, they’re not doing it "right." But what happens when the roles reverse? When a man is the runner and a woman is the stayer? It’s like the whole script gets flipped, and suddenly no one knows how to act.

At the end of the day, relationships are a two-way street. Both people need to be willing to meet in the middle, to compromise and grow together. But until we stop putting all the pressure on one person to change or to chase, things are probably going to stay pretty uneven.

 

[Fugara]

I’ve been thinking a lot about something someone once told me regarding emotional connections, especially when it comes to the idea of "running." They shared how they used to believe in the concept of a "soul connection," but their perspective shifted when they realized their connection wasn’t ready to acknowledge the bond due to fear. I can relate to this because I’ve been in a situation where I felt a deep connection with someone, but they weren’t ready to embrace it. It wasn’t until I experienced someone "running" from me that I truly understood why they might have been afraid.

Recently, I’ve been reflecting on my own experiences, and I’ve noticed that even in my dreams, my subconscious acknowledges the connection as simply a "soul connection" rather than labeling it as a "Twin Flame." It’s as if my mind is trying to process the bond without the added pressure of a specific label. This makes me think that sometimes, labeling relationships can create unnecessary expectations or fears, especially for those who are still learning to embrace their emotions.

It’s interesting how our minds and hearts work to protect us, even if it means "running" from something real. I’m still trying to make sense of it all, but I’m grateful for the perspective that’s helped me understand the other side of the story.

 

[Pacepix]

Haha, isn't that the truth! Last night, I dreamt of my soul connection telling me, "I'll be the one to take the lead."

Amused, I replied with a playful jab, "So maybe launching into things right away isn’t exactly an option?"

I totally get and respect that approach. Dreams often provide fascinating insights, and this one seemed to comment on the importance of pacing in relationships. It's intriguing how these dream interactions can mirror our inner dialogues and expectations about romance and personal connections. I'm curious if anyone else has had similar dreams!

 

[Kaidro]

I’ve been thinking a lot about runners and twin flame journeys lately. I went through a really tough time with my runner, and it left me feeling lost and heartbroken. For a while, I couldn’t understand why they had to pull away, and it honestly sent me into a deep spiral of self-doubt and depression. But recently, something shifted inside me. I started to see that the separation wasn’t about me or my worth—it was about both of us needing to grow individually before we could ever come back together.

It’s funny how clarity comes when you least expect it. I realized that we both needed space to figure out who we are outside of the relationship. It doesn’t mean the connection isn’t real or important; it just means we weren’t ready to meet each other on the same level. I’ve been told that maintaining a friendship with my runner helps with the feelings of missing them, and honestly, it’s been a gentle way to keep the connection alive without putting too much pressure on either of us.

Patience has been my biggest teacher through all of this. I’ve learned to trust that my higher self knows the timing of everything, and when the time is right, we’ll find our way back to each other. Until then, I’m focusing on healing, growing, and trusting the process. Wishing you all blessings on your own journey.